In re the Marriage of Stice

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 18-0783
Filed February 20, 2019

IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF JOSHUA RYAN STICE
AND CHRISTINA INEZ STICE

Upon the Petition of
JOSHUA RYAN STICE,
Petitioner-Appellee,

And Concerning
CHRISTINA INEZ STICE n/k/a CHRISTINA INEZ ADAMS,
Respondent-Appellant.
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Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Polk County, Thomas P. Murphy,

Judge.

A mother appeals the modification of physical care provisions of a decree

of dissolution. AFFIRMED.

Patrick W. O'Bryan of O’Bryan Law Firm, Des Moines, for appellant.

Lucas W. Otto of Otto Law Office, PLLC, Newton, for appellee.

Considered by Tabor, P.J., and Mullins and Bower, JJ.
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TABOR, Presiding Judge.

Christina Adams and Joshua Stice are the parents of G.S. The decree

dissolving their marriage granted them joint legal custody and placed physical care

with Christina. Four years later, Joshua sought modification, and the district court

placed physical care of seven-year-old G.S. with him. Christina appeals. Because

Joshua demonstrated Christina’s failure to support his relationship with G.S.

required a change in the care arrangement, we affirm.

I. Facts and Prior Proceedings.

Christina and Joshua were married in 2010, had G.S. in 2011, and divorced

in 2013. After the divorce, Joshua met and married Ashland; they have an infant

daughter, and Ashland has another daughter close to G.S.’s age. They live

together in the Des Moines area. Christina moved to Missouri and then to Keokuk.

In addition to G.S., Christina’s household includes her two older school-aged

daughters from another relationship; her fiancé, Jason; and his eighteen-year-old

son. By all accounts, G.S. gets along well with all her half- and step-siblings.

Shortly after the divorce, Christina began violating the terms of the decree—

including denying Joshua parenting time and failing to communicate effectively

with him about G.S. For instance, for several years, Joshua and Christina agreed

to perform custody exchanges in Batavia, Iowa, about ninety minutes from both

their homes. On many occasions, Christina canceled visitation immediately before

the exchange when Joshua was already in Batavia or on his way. Three times,

Christina did not show up for the exchange. On several Fridays, when Joshua

planned to pick up G.S., Christina told him G.S. was too sick for his weekend

visitation, that the day care called, and G.S. needed to go to the doctor. But when
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Joshua obtained the medical records, G.S. had not been to the doctor on those

days. Christina also failed to tell Joshua the daycare was closed on Fridays.

Joshua occasionally requested flexibility in the visitation schedule to

accommodate his duties as an Army reservist. But Christina generally refused to

compromise. Even when Joshua offered to drive all the way to Keokuk to pick up

G.S., Christina often declined. Christina testified she has a busy work schedule

and some family medical emergencies prevented Joshua from receiving all his

visitation. But she also admitted many times she did not tell him the true reason

for cancelling.

At the hearing, Joshua complained about Christina’s lack of communication;

phone calls and texts often went unanswered. Once, Christina did not

communicate with Joshua about G.S. for three weeks, during which she denied all

his scheduled visitation. In summer 2017, Christina did not let Joshua see G.S.

for seven weeks. She also refused Joshua phone contact during that time.

Christina’s failure to communicate extended to G.S.’s health care. Christina

did not provide Joshua notice of medical appointments or share paperwork with

him following those appointments. Christina did not document Joshua as a parent

in G.S.’s medical records or report insurance information accurately so Joshua

ended up bearing additional medical expenses. For four or five months in 2017,

Christina told Joshua G.S. was seeing a counselor and the department of human

services was involved. Christina admitted at trial neither assertion was true.

Education issues were no better. Just three weeks before the modification

hearing, Joshua learned Christina had enrolled G.S. in a new school without

notifying him or listing him as a parent.
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The parents also clashed over having phone calls with G.S. outside their

scheduled parenting time. The parents had agreed to a schedule of calls from

Joshua on Tuesday and Thursday nights, and both parents receiving calls on the

Saturday G.S. was not in their care. Calls were to take place at 6:00 p.m. but most

of Joshua’s calls went unanswered or were cut short. Christina testified G.S. loses

interest in talking on the phone and does not like going to her dad’s for visitation.

But Christina also admitted she told G.S. that Joshua was asking for physical care

and trying to put Christina “in jail” for not complying with court orders.

To enforce his visitation, Joshua had to resort to contempt actions. In

January 2014, on Joshua’s petition, the court held Christina in contempt for

withholding visitation on thirty-five occasions. The court ordered her to give

Joshua make-up visits. In January 2018, the court again held Christina in

contempt1 for denying Joshua his scheduled parenting time including six overnight

visits; failing to inform Joshua of medical appointments and where G.S. was

enrolled in school; and incurring unnecessary medical expenses by failing to use

G.S.’s insurance card. The court ordered Christina to serve thirty days in the

county jail and make up the missed visitation.2

After repeatedly pursuing contempt as a remedy, Joshua filed this

modification petition requesting physical care. The court held a modification

hearing—admitting into evidence many exhibits, including text message logs,

police logs, medical records, school attendance records, journals from both

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Although the court entered one order, it stemmed from Joshua’s two separate petitions
for rule to show cause for various violations of the decree over many months.
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Christina failed to appear at the hearing, and the court entered a default order.
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parents recording their visitations and interactions, phone call logs, and other

relevant information. Both parents testified.

At the close of the hearing, the court made the following statement:

I am concerned that a move will be traumatic for [G.S.] I am
concerned if she moves she will miss her siblings. I am more
concerned that [G.S.] is not having frequent and regular contact with
her father and that is not encouraged. She needs both of her
parents. I do believe that her father is going to support a relationship
with you [Christina] more than you support a relationship with [G.S.’s]
father.
I think it is in [G.S.’s] best interest and the Court’s finding that
we are going to award primary care to Mr. Stice. You will have very
liberal visitation, every other weekend.

The court established a new visitation schedule for Christina and implored both

parents to cooperate in their child’s interest. Christina appeals the modification.

II. Standard of Review

We review rulings on motions to modify dissolution decrees de novo. Iowa

R. App. P. 6.907; In re Marriage of Beecher, 582 N.W.2d 510, 512 (Iowa 1998).

“We examine the entire record and adjudicate anew rights on the issues properly

presented.” Beecher, 582 N.W.2d at 512–13. “We give weight to the fact findings

of the trial court, especially when considering the credibility of witnesses, but are

not bound by them.” Id. at 513.

Our primary concern is G.S’s best interests. See In re Marriage of Fennelly,

737 N.W.2d 97, 101 (Iowa 2007). When determining physical care, we are guided

by the factors established in Iowa Code section 598.41(3) (2017) and In re

Marriage of Winter, 223 N.W.2d 165, 166–67 (Iowa 1974). McKee v. Dicus, 785

N.W.2d 733, 737 (Iowa Ct. App. 2010). But because each family presents its own
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strengths and challenges, we base our determination on the circumstances of each

case. See In re Marriage of Kleist, 538 N.W.2d 273, 276 (Iowa 1995).

III. Analysis

Joshua must show by a preponderance of the evidence modification of the

physical care arrangement is appropriate. See In re Marriage of Hoffman, 867

N.W.2d 26, 32 (Iowa 2015). We apply a two-pronged test. First, Joshua must

show conditions since entry of the decree have materially and substantially

changed such that it is fitting to request the modification, and the changes were

not contemplated by the court when entering the decree, are more or less

permanent, and relate to G.S.’s welfare. See id. And second, Joshua must show

his ability to offer superior care. See In re Marriage of Mayfield, 577 N.W.2d 872,

873 (Iowa Ct. App. 1998)). “The burden is necessarily a heavy one undergirding

the fundamental policy that ‘once custody of children has been fixed it should be

disturbed only for the most cogent reasons.’” Hoffman, 867 N.W.2d at 32 (quoting

In re Marriage of Federici, 338 N.W.2d 156, 160 (Iowa 1983)).

A. Substantial Change in Circumstances.

When deciding what physical care arrangement will be in G.S.’s best

interests, we consider, among other factors, “the ability of the spouses to

communicate and show mutual respect.” In re Marriage of Hansen, 733 N.W.2d

683, 698 (Iowa 2007). This factor loomed large in the district court’s description of

the substantial change in circumstances justifying modification of the decree:

Christina failed, and even refused, to keep Joshua informed
about [G.S.’s] activities, Joshua was often unaware of [G.S.’s]
medical providers, and he was kept in the dark regarding school
enrollment. For months, Christina deliberately and falsely led
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Joshua to believe [G.S.] was seeing a counselor related to [G.S.’s]
relationship with Joshua.

The district court further discussed Christina’s lack of respect for

Joshua when navigating the visitation exchanges:

The parties had agreed to meet halfway between their
locations to exchange [G.S.] on visitations. Often, Christina would
tell Joshua after he was already traveling to the halfway point, or
when he was already there, that she was working overtime and could
not meet him.
. . . Joshua would text or call Christina about [G.S.] . . . . His
texts or calls often went unanswered and unreturned . . . .
Although the court believes that at times, Christina’s work
schedule interfered with visitation exchanges, it seems more often
than not that Christina simply refused to comply with ordered, or
agreed-upon, visitation.

The district court questioned Christina’s credibility.

When questioned about her behavior, Christina offered excuses,
was evasive, and at times untruthful. When pushed, in several parts
of her testimony, Christina admitted to withholding visits (and lying
about the reasons) but said she made “mistakes,” that she and
Joshua need to communicate better, or that she received bad advice
from prior attorneys. Christina suggested that she has learned her
lesson and will change. However, even being sentenced to jail in
January 2018, Christina did not make a reasonable attempt to
provide ordered make-up visits and she withheld an Easter weekend
visit between [G.S.] and Joshua (knowing the modification trial was
just around the corner.)

We have carefully reviewed the parties’ trial exhibits, testimony, and

counsel’s arguments and—giving proper deference to the district court’s credibility

determinations—we agree Joshua showed substantially changed circumstances.

Christina’s continual interference with his relationship with G.S. emerges as a

cogent reason to transfer physical care. As Joshua explained at the trial, rather

than filing successive contempt actions, the best way to deal with Christina’s
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intransigence is to modify the care arrangement. We find modification to be

justified here.

B. Ability to Offer Superior Care.

Joshua next must show his ability to offer G.S. superior care. Christina

argues the district court did not make an express finding that Joshua could offer

superior care. We agree the district court’s ruling could be clearer, but its findings

of fact and conclusions of law are definitive that—in light of Christina’s undermining

conduct—Joshua would now be the superior primary caregiver. The court rejected

Christina’s prediction that “a move to Joshua’s house will be ‘devastating’ to [G.S.]”

Instead, the court found it would be “devastating for [G.S.] to primarily stay at

Christina’s house and have repeated interference with visitations with Joshua,

which whom [G.S.] should have maximum exposure . . . . [T]he court finds that it

is in [G.S.’s] best interests to have Joshua become her primary physical caretaker.”

Each parent’s ability to support the other parent’s relationship with the child

is a key factor in deciding physical care. See Iowa Code § 598.41(3)(e). “Discord

between parents that has a disruptive effect” on a child’s life can warrant a change

in the physical care arrangement if by enacting the change the child “will have

superior care.” Melchiori v. Kooi, 644 N.W.2d 365, 368 (Iowa Ct. App. 2002).

In this case, both parents are capable of maintaining an appropriate home

environment and meeting G.S.’s material and nurturing needs. But Joshua

established he will be a better physical-care custodian. Joshua has exercised

patience with Christina’s interference and consistently worked to maintain contact

with his daughter despite obstacles thrown in his way. We agree with the district

court that Christina has placed G.S. in the middle of her conflict with Joshua by
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discussing the contempt and modification proceedings with the child. These

inappropriate disclosures have had a detrimental impact on G.S.’s relationship with

her father. By contrast, Joshua has shown he is more willing to support Christina’s

relationship with G.S. He has not exposed G.S. to inappropriate discussions about

these proceedings or disparaged Christina to G.S.

On a final point, we appreciate Christina’s concern that a change in physical

care will unsettle G.S. and impact the strong bond the child enjoys with her two

half-sisters. See In re Marriage of Orte, 389 N.W.2d 373, 374 (Iowa 1986)

(expressing preference for keeping siblings together). But we note that G.S. also

has a half-sibling and step-sibling in Joshua’s home. Christina complains the

district court focused too much on the turmoil between her and Joshua and her

past conduct; but her past conduct is the catalyst for the change in the care

arrangements. The district court properly ordered liberal visitation for Christina.

We affirm the modification.

AFFIRMED.