In re Estate of Nagel

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 23-1856
Filed October 30, 2024

IN THE MATTER OF THE ESTATE OF JEFFREY D. NAGEL, Deceased.

LORI A. PAINTER,
Appellant,

vs.

HALEY N. NAGEL, KALYB A. NAGEL, and BRITTYN S. NAGEL,
Beneficiaries-Appellees.
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Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Webster County, Kurt J. Stoebe,

Judge.

Lori Painter appeals the district court’s order denying her motion to

intervene and motion for appointment as co-administrator of the Estate of Jeffery

Nagel. AFFIRMED.

William H. Habhab, Fort Dodge, for appellant.

Neven J. Mulholland, Fort Dodge, for appellees.

Considered by Schumacher, P.J., and Buller and Langholz, JJ.
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SCHUMACHER, Presiding Judge.

Lori Painter appeals the district court’s order denying her motion to

intervene and motion for appointment as co-administrator of the Estate of Jeffery

Nagel. Painter challenges the court’s finding that she failed to prove she was

Nagel’s common-law wife. Upon our review, we affirm.

I. Background Facts and Proceedings

Nagel died intestate in 2020, following a work-related accident. His

daughter, Haley, filed a petition for small estate administration, requesting to be

named the personal representative of Nagel’s estate. Haley’s petition listed herself

and her siblings, Kalyb and Brittyn, as Nagel’s heirs. The district court entered an

order appointing Haley as personal representative of the estate.

Lori Painter filed a motion to intervene, alleging to be “the common law wife

of the Deceased.” Painter claimed to be “a beneficiary of this estate under Iowa

Code section 633.212” (2020), and she requested to “be appointed as a Co-

administrator of the estate.” Painter attached to her motion the following “Joint

Affidavit Re: Common Law Marriage” signed by Painter and Nagel:
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The estate filed an answer to the motion, denying Painter was Nagel’s

common law wife, denying Painter was a beneficiary of the estate, and resisting

her request to be appointed co-administrator of the estate. The estate further

claimed “the Joint Affidavit Re: Common Law Marriage is a sham executed only

for the purpose of obtaining insurance coverage for [Painter], and that no other

incidents required to establish a common law marriage exist.”

The matter proceeded to trial, at which the court received exhibits and heard

testimony from Painter; Linda Cloud (a former neighbor of Painter and Nagel);

Amber Porter (Painter’s daughter); Scott Otto (Nagel’s friend); Robert Lambertsen

(Nagel’s coworker); DeeAnn Otto (Scott’s wife and Nagel’s coworker); Haley

(Nagel’s daughter); and Brittyn (Nagel’s son). The evidence before the court

reflected that Painter and Nagel began a relationship in Waterloo in 2002 or 2003.

They eventually moved in together. They each had “some issues” and were both

“[a]ddicted to methamphetamine.” Later that year, Nagel reached out to Scott for

help with his addiction, and then moved with his son to Scott’s home in Fort Dodge.

Nagel got sober and obtained a job with Scott’s employer. In 2004, Nagel began

renting a home in Fort Dodge, and the next year, Painter moved into the home with

some of her children.

Over the years, Nagel and Painter separated several times. Painter moved

back to the Waterloo area. In 2009 or 2010, Painter moved back to Nagel’s home

in Fort Dodge. At some point, Painter moved to the basement of Cloud’s house

next door. She eventually moved back in with Nagel, although the evidence

indicates she periodically moved back to the Waterloo area. Nagel dated other

women during these separations.
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In 2014, Painter and Nagel moved into Cloud’s house. Although Cloud

testified she thought she was selling the home to them as a couple, the mortgage

listed “Jeffery D. Nagel, a single person.” Painter explained her absence from the

mortgage was due to her lack of credit history. Painter testified she believed that

would be their “forever home,” and recalled that Nagel bought her flowers “all the

time” and called her “his missus.” Despite their separations, she stated Nagel had

“always been my husband” since they met. Nagel’s friends and family refuted

Painter’s testimony that she and Nagel were ever married.

The next few years were particularly tumultuous for Nagel. A battle with

prostate cancer left him impotent. He failed alcohol and drug tests through his

employer, and he was eventually terminated after he tested positive for opiates.

Nagel became suicidal. In spring 2019, Painter and Nagel officially ended their

relationship. Painter gathered her belongings and moved to Indiana.

In October 2020, Nagel sustained an injury at work when the truck he was

driving rolled over. He spent a week in the hospital before passing away due to

his injuries. Painter did not visit Nagel in the hospital, but she testified, “I said my

goodbyes to him through the phone.”1

Following trial, the court entered a decree finding Painter had “failed to

prove that she was married by common law” to Nagel. Accordingly, the court

denied Painter’s motion to intervene and motion for appointment as co-

administrator. Painter appeals.

1 Nagel was on a ventilator prior to his death.
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II. Standard of Review

Because this case was tried in equity, our review is de novo. In re Est. of

Stodola, 519 N.W.2d 97, 99 (Iowa Ct. App. 1994). We give weight to the fact

findings of the district court, especially when considering the credibility of

witnesses, but are not bound by those determinations. Iowa R. App.

P. 6.904(3)(g).

III. Discussion

On appeal, Painter challenges the district court’s conclusion that she failed

to prove the existence of a common law marriage. “[C]laims of common law

marriage are carefully scrutinized and the burden of proof rests with the party

asserting the claim.” In re Marriage of Martin, 681 N.W.2d 612, 617 (Iowa 2004).

A. Credibility of Witnesses

Preliminarily, Painter disputes the district court’s findings that her testimony

was not credible and the opposing witnesses were more credible. Painter

acknowledges she and “her witnesses and the Nagel children [and] their witnesses

had vastly opposing views regarding the nature of [Nagel and Painter’s]

relationship” but argues the court had more cause to disbelieve the opposing

witnesses; namely due to what Painter refers to as an “overwhelming amount of

documentary evidence.” According to Painter, “[t]he court’s findings of credibility

are not consistent with the documents signed by [Nagel and Painter] from 2013

through 2019 clearly identifying each other as husband and wife.”

In equity cases, although the district court’s fact findings do not bind us, “we

give them weight—especially those based on witness-credibility determinations.”

In re Marriage of Nichols & Mauro, No. 23-0767, 2024 WL 697752, at *3 (Iowa Ct.
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App. Feb. 21, 2024); accord Iowa R. App. P. 6.904(3)(g). “This is because we—

unlike the district court—are limited to reviewing the cold record and are thus

‘denied the impression created by the demeanor of each and every witness.’”

Nichols & Mauro, 2024 WL 697752, at *3 (quoting In re Marriage of Vrban, 359

N.W.2d 420, 423 (Iowa 1984)). At the outset of its order, the court made the

following findings:

The Court finds that [Painter]’s testimony lacked credibility.
She frequently contradicted her own testimony. She was
consistently unable to recall important dates. She refused to
acknowledge unfavorable evidence even regarding declarations that
she made under penalty of law. She often propounded improbable
scenarios to explain unfavorable evidence. Her testimony was self-
serving to the extreme. Her conduct was disrespectful requiring the
Court to admonish her.
Scott Otto, DeeAnn Otto, and Robert Lambertsen provided
very credible testimony. They have no stake in the outcome of this
trial. Their answers were straightforward and forthcoming. They
admitted when they did not recall an event, but were consistent and
certain on those matters they recalled. Their answers were succinct
and not argumentative. The Court finds them to be the guideposts
of the trial.
The Court found the testimony of Amber Porter and Linda
Cloud to be somewhat more reliable than [Painter]’s, but they also
refused to acknowledge unfavorable facts and were often
argumentative. They testified to support [Painter]. Their motives for
their bias obviously differed, but their testimony was unpersuasive.
The Court finds it impossible to rely on them on critical issues.
The Court found Brittyn’s and Haley’s testimony to be
convincing. Brittyn has an extensive criminal history which would
normally make it difficult to believe him. However, he was candid
and quite convincing. He readily acknowledged his criminal record
and history of drug addiction. He gave no excuses for his conduct
and readily admitted unfavorable evidence. His answers were
concise and nonargumentative. He was candid and complimentary
of [Painter]’s relationship with him. In summary, the Court was
favorably impressed and found him to be quite believable.
Similarly, the Court found Haley’s testimony credible. She
obviously has a great deal to gain if the Court rules against [Painter].
However, Haley was also responsive in her answers. She also
admitted the good and the bad. She was not derogatory of [Painter]’s
relationship with her family. Her evidence was consistent, heartfelt,
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and concise. Her observations were consistent with undisputed
evidence and depicted a convincing explanation of her father’s
tumultuous relationship with [Painter].

“Factual disputes that depend on the credibility of witnesses are best

resolved by the district court.” In re Marriage of Baker, No. 14-1293, 2015 WL

4163351, at *2 (Iowa Ct. App. July 9, 2015) (citing Tim O’Neill Chevrolet, Inc. v.

Forristall, 551 N.W.2d 611, 614 (Iowa 1996)). Here, the district court saw and

heard contradictory testimony from the parties, ultimately disbelieved Painter’s

testimony on key points, and further found it “impossible to rely on [Painter’s

witnesses] on critical issues.” In making its findings, the court considered the

witnesses’ neutrality and motives, as well as their criminal records and history of

drug addiction. See id. (“The court was aware of the witnesses’ biases and criminal

records in sorting through their different versions of events.”). “Although our review

is de novo, only in rare instances would we substitute our own credibility

determinations for those of the district court.” Id. We see nothing in this record

that leads us to disagree with the district court’s credibility determinations. See In

re Est. of Walters, No. 18-0612, 2019 WL 2152578, at *2 (Iowa Ct. App. May 15,

2019) (“[W]e defer to the district court’s credibility finding regarding the testimony.”

(citing In re Est. of Bruene, 350 N.W.2d 209, 211 (Iowa Ct. App. 1984))).

B. Common Law Marriage

A party seeking to establish a common-law marriage has the burden to

prove three elements: “(1) [present] intent and agreement . . . to be married by

both parties; (2) continuous cohabitation; and (3) public declaration that the parties

are husband and wife.” Martin, 681 N.W.2d at 617 (alterations in original) (quoting

In re Marriage of Winegard, 278 N.W.2d 505, 510 (Iowa 1979)). Because Painter
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must prove all three elements, we need not decide whether she has proven

continuous habitation and instead focus on the first and third elements.

Present intent and agreement to be married may be proved by evidence of

“[t]he conduct of the parties and their general community reputation.” Id. At trial,

most of the witnesses testified that Nagel—after three failed marriages—

consistently declared “he was never going to get married again.” The testimony in

contrast was much weaker. For example, Painter’s witness, Cloud, testified she

“view[ed] them as a marital couple” because Nagel “would say, ‘I wonder what the

wifey is fixing for supper,’” and because when Cloud and her husband sold their

home to Nagel, “In our minds, we were selling the home to them as a couple.” We

observe that Painter’s own testimony belies her assertion that she believed the

parties were married:

Q. . . . How many times has Jeff been married prior to meeting
you? A. I think four.
Q. Okay. Four times. And over the years, did you and
he discuss marriage? A. We did. . . . I figured he would ask me to
marry him.
Q. He didn’t ask you? A. He did ask me.
Q. He— A. He did. One day said, “Why don’t we just go to
the courthouse and get married?”
Q. Why didn’t you? A. We just didn’t.
Q. You didn’t get married? Even though there was an
opportunity, you chose not to get married for whatever reason;
correct? A. No. I didn’t choose not to get married, just didn’t follow
through. I didn’t say “No, I’m not marrying you.”
Q. Well, you didn’t get married? A. Right.
Q. You talked about it and it didn’t happen? A. Right.
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Painter’s main support for this element is the 2013 affidavit filed with Nagel’s

health insurance carrier.2 She relies on this court’s opinion in In re Estate of

Stodola, to support her claim. In Stodola, we found a common law marriage

existed where, along with the insurance-coverage affidavit—the parties

cohabitated for twenty years, filed joint tax returns, registered as husband and wife

at motels, and held themselves out as husband and wife at social events. 519

N.W.2d at 99. The husband also designated the wife as his retirement-plan

beneficiary and listed her as his common law wife on the documents. Id. Similar

evidence supporting this element was not presented in this case.

The district court found Painter “has undermined this argument with

testimony that the marriage predated the Affidavit.” Nagel’s lifelong friend, Scott,

provided the most plausible reasoning for the affidavit, stating Nagel “signed it

simply so that she could have the insurance.” Specifically, Otto testified, “[Nagel]

explained to me that he had signed this affidavit simply to get [Painter] health

coverage because she had some both physical and mental issues she was dealing

with and was unable to get health insurance on her own that would have been

affordable. He was helping her out.” Even Painter acknowledged the “purpose”

2 Painter also points to “[m]ultiple documents” submitted to the court, including a

Facebook post by Nagel in 2018, a medical power of attorney, a letter from
Painter’s life insurance policy, a 2017 income tax return, and “medical records.”
But these sources were rebutted by other, more reliable statements and
documents in the record. Our courts have recognized that “‘fluctuating’ actions
and declarations about the relationship status ‘largely based on personal
convenience or benefit’” do not amount to the required present intent and
agreement. Nichols & Mauro, 2024 WL 697752, at *3 (quoting Martin, 681 N.W.2d
at 618). “Such shifting conduct ‘is inconsistent with the concept of marriage’ and
‘undermines support for a present intent and agreement to be married.’” Id.
(quoting Martin, 681 N.W.2d at 618).
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of the affidavit was “to get [her] on a good insurance plan”; “He wanted me to have

good insurance.”

The district court addressed this issue, stating in part, “The Sto[dola] holding

makes clear that the Court must examine the parties’ intent when interpreting the

impact of the Affidavit. . . . When the Affidavit is placed in the context of other

credible evidence, it is not convincing evidence of the decedent’s present intent to

be married.” The court’s findings are supported by the record. See Shane v.

Walters, No. 22-0565, 2022 WL 17829360, at *2 (Iowa Ct. App. Dec. 21, 2022)

(“Aside from the affidavit, none of those indicia [in Stodola] are present in this

case.”); In re Marriage of O’Connor-Sherrets & Sherrets, No. 08-0293, 2008 WL

4877763, at *2 (Iowa Ct. App. Nov. 3, 2008) (“In contrast to the Stodola facts, there

was little, if any, evidence that Judith and Larry ever claimed to be married either

prior to or subsequent to the signing of the affidavit.”).

Even assuming the parties had the requisite present intent and agreement,

they must also hold themselves out as married to the public. “[T]here can be no

secret common law marriage.” Martin, 681 N.W.2d at 618. Here, Painter

presented no consistent evidence that the parties held themselves out as husband

and wife. She relies on most of the same evidence to prove both the present-

intent-and-agreement and public-declaration elements. As the district court

acknowledged, some of her exhibits represented the parties as married. However,

we concur with the court that most of the evidence “demonstrates that both parties

often changed their descriptions of their relationship.”

For example, when Painter was questioned why she represented to the

Department of Human Services in 2014 that she “lived with [her] friend, Jeff Nagel,”
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Painter acknowledged calling Nagel her friend but explained, “I consider him my

husband,” “I [just] didn’t say that.” Similarly, when questioned why her medical

records noted, “[Painter] identifies that her boyfriend is 17 years as an alcoholic.

She feels that she cannot communicate with him,” she acknowledged calling Nagel

her boyfriend but responded, “I mean I should have said husband. . . . At the time

he was my husband.”

Painter further agreed the record contained “various [documents

accumulated] over the course of years” in which she referenced Nagel as her

“boyfriend,” “roommate,” “ex-common-law husband,” “non-relative,” “live-in

boyfriend,” “partner,” and “current housemate.” She also referenced herself as

“single” in many of these documents. This evidence does not establish the

substantial “public declaration or holding out to the public” that is the “acid test of

a common law marriage.” Id.; accord Shane, 2022 WL 1789360, at *2 (“Evidence

that the parties held themselves out as husband and wife is thin. While the parties

made occasional reference to each other as husband or wife, the greater weight

of evidence at trial proved most third parties understood Walters and Shane were

not married.”).

In sum, although “some of the record evidence cuts both ways, we cannot

disagree with the district court’s finding that [Painter] did not carry [her] burden to

prove a common law marriage.” Shane, 2022 WL 1789360, at *2; accord In re

Marriage of Gensley, 777 N.W.2d 705, 713 (Iowa Ct. App. 2009) (affirming on de

novo review after giving appropriate deference to the district court’s firsthand view

of the witnesses at trial, despite some conflicting evidence). We affirm the district
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court’s order denying Painter’s motion to intervene and motion for appointment as

co-administrator of the Estate of Jeffery Nagel.

AFFIRMED.